Here at the Hood…

We are committed to creating and sustaining a community where women can come in today’s world to feel safe, empowered and heard.

Where we can hang our judgements at the door and just BE.

A place to support one another – even when we may not see eye to eye.

And find comfort in the fact that we all have a secret. That we are not alone.

Here you are sharing more than your secret – you are sharing your story – and your story deserves to be told.

Thank you for your courage in joining our community & your compassion for each other’s bravery.

Welcome to The Hood.

How it Works…

1. First, if you haven’t already, join The Sisterhood HERE. Yay! Now you’re a member of our community! As a member, you are able to post secrets, leave comments and interact with one another.

2. Please get familiar with The Code of The Sisterhood, and if nothing else, remember we operate on The Golden Rule: If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all.

3. Time to explore. Have something you’ve been wanting to get off your chest? Share your secret here. In the mood for some inspiration? Visit our Inspire page. Need a good laugh? Head on over to Amuse. Looking for the secrets that come from the deepest, sometimes darkest parts of our hearts? Endure is where you will find the most meaningful connections.

The Code

  • We don’t have to see eye to eye before we can show compassion. We don’t have to approve of a life choice in order to give love. We don’t have to agree with one another before we can offer support and show kindness–which is why we’re taking it back to the old school with SOS’ Golden Rule: If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all. It truly is that simple. In this new-age cyber world of opinions, judgments, and trolling, let’s work together to bridge the gap and show support. If you can’t play nice, there are plenty of other communities you can join – this is not one of them.
  • If you’re here, if you’re joining our community, that means you’re hanging your judgments at the door. Some of these are heavy secrets. Some secrets will strike a chord within you. Some secrets will feel personal. But please remember SOS is not a place to lash out – this is not a place to be aggressive or defensive. There are positive ways to disagree and our hope is to build a community with a healthy dialogue about the topics that touch our core. The moment we stop showing compassion is the moment this stops being a safe place.
  • Part of sharing your secret is to connect with others that may share your experience or learn from your past. We have found that inappropriate or vulgar language can shut people off from the heart of a story. We want your shares to be powerful and well received. For that reason, the use of offensive language will not be tolerated. This goes for both sharing and commenting on other shares. Any violation of this rule will be subject for immediate removal and possible termination of membership.
  • We love you guys, we really do. And we feel confident that every woman here has a passion and profession outside of The Sisterhood. With that being said, we must ask that there be no self-promotion or cross promotion of any kind when signed into SOS. With the exception of approved advertisements and services, we must legally ask that no outside service or link be shared due to the sensitive content of our community. If you feel you have an outside service to share that may be beneficial to our community, please contact us here for further information.
  • On the same note – NO SPAM. And we’re not just talking about the canned stuff. Any spam whatsoever will be grounds for immediate removal.
  • Unless you want one of us showing up at your front door and/or texting you at odd hours of the night – let’s refrain from sharing our personal information with one another. As stated in our Terms of Service, SOS is not responsible for the information you choose to share when private messaging another member but we will go on record here and say we strongly advise you think twice before you do. Since this is a safe place to share your secrets, we want this safety to be felt on the whole. We work hard to protect you so please do the same for yourself and don’t publically post or share any private or personal information. Be safe, ladies.
  • When in doubt, please refer to our Terms of Service. We reserve the right to moderate and take action on any violations of The Code, Terms of Service or Privacy Policy. Sisterhood of Secrets has the right to terminate and ban any member, for any reason, at any time.

FAQ’s

I’ve lost my password. How can I reset it?

It’s a simple mistake. We all do it. We can email a temporary password to the email address you used to register for the account by clicking here. An email will be sent with your temporary password.

Can I edit or delete my secret once it’s been published?

Once published, secrets cannot be edited or deleted.

How many secrets can I share?

We all have many secrets and we encourage you to share as many as you wish. We don’t limit the amount of secrets you can share.

How do I submit a secret or post a comment?

You must register and become a member in order to share a secret and/or post comments. You can register here, or if you are already a member and logged in, you can share your secret here.

Can I post a secret or comment anonymously?

Yes.  As you register you will be asked to create a username.  This username will be made public with each secret or comment posted.

Can I private message another user?

Yes, after you register you can private message another registered user by going to your account.  Simply click on the messages tab where you can send a private message as well as view inbox messages or track previous messages.  You can private message more than one registered user (kind of like group texting).

Can I delete my account and/or secrets?

Yes, you can delete your account but it will NOT delete your published secrets.  You must send us an email to submit@sisterhoodofsecrets.com and we will delete your account.

Our Story

As told by Ashley:

It has proven difficult to find a way to capture all that we feel you should know about this project, about the love and heart and vulnerability that went into creating this space.

This has been a long time in the making. What started as a bout of unexpected courage quickly became an opportunity for meaningful connection. Four years ago I made myself vulnerable and shared my secret with you on the often scary Internet…and you responded with open arms.

And you didn’t have to.  You could have told me that I was crazy or gross or teased me.
But you didn’t.  Even if you didn’t understand my condition, you did your best to relate to the emotions I was feeling. Your support was life changing for me. Compassion and courage given to me by complete strangers!

Your comfort filled in the cracks of my brokenness. And though we had never met and I wouldn’t be able to spot your face in a crowd, your kindness created a connection between us. We were strangers no longer.

In response to the overwhelming love and encouragement shown to me by so many of you, I started the blog Sisterhood of Secrets nearly 3.5 years ago.

It was designed to be a safe place. A place where we learn about YOUR secrets, where we tell YOU that you’re not alone. Anonymous or with a name attached, you decided how you wanted your secret to be posted.

The site went live and your secrets began to pour in.  Once again, I was overwhelmed by the courage and compassion we found in this community–in this sisterhood.

But I wasn’t ready.  Your secrets were deep and your pain was real.  And my sensitive heart nearly broke at the heaviness I felt on my shoulders as your truths showed up in my personal inbox. I wanted to make everything better for you, to give you a big hug, to contact you each personally, to make you promises that you would be okay even if I wasn’t sure that you would.  It was a lot. I got scared. And even though I was trying to build a community, I started to feel alone.

Eventually fear did what it does best and it paralyzed me from progress–I stopped posting and eventually took down Sisterhood of Secrets. It wasn’t an easy decision, but I had realized I wasn’t yet prepared for the responsibility that came with sharing your stories.

Little did I know that while I was taking time to build up my courage…the universe was arranging itself from across the country in Manhattan.

Do you believe that certain people are brought into your life at a certain time for a certain reason? Because I do. And for me, that person was Lacey–the friend from our freshmen year in high school who I had a falling out with over a boy…yes, a boy. She went from my best friend to my sworn enemy overnight–you remember that petty high school drama, because she was mine.

Years passed and Lacey and I had little contact.  A wedding here or there, a random run in at a restaurant.  While my anger toward her had dissolved over the years, we had little reason to connect. I heard through the grapevine that Lacey moved to New York and I remember thinking “how cool”, but nothing more.  Flash forward a few years and I run into Lacey at a movie theatre.  Our eyes met, we hugged like old friends and I noticed her hands gently touching a growing belly–she was pregnant.  And for the briefest of seconds I had a fleeting thought that caught me off guard–I wanted to know her baby.  We parted ways and it would be another year before we crossed paths again…when I received an invitation to her daughter’s first birthday party around the corner from my house–Lacey had moved back home.  This was more than an invitation to a party, this was an invitation back into her life. And I accepted.

I’ll save you all the mushy details about how we soon learned we had needed to grow up before we could grow together. And how our friendship blossomed into a sisterhood over the next year and a half.  About how she moved into a house right around the corner from mine.  How our children became like siblings to each other. And how, like me, she wanted to do something more, something that mattered, something that inspired people to be kinder.

It was in the middle of a late night crafting session in Lacey’s garage when I confided a secret in her.  One that I had never said out loud.  It was freeing. A weight on my shoulders was lifted.  The burden of my heartbreak was no longer being shouldered alone.  And while she couldn’t erase my tragedy, she could tell me that I wasn’t alone.  It was a sense of comfort I remember all to well from your support only a few years earlier.  Our soul sharing eventually became a conversation about SOS, and I had to answer the questions about why I stopped.

LaceyWe all have secrets. She reminded me.
LaceyAnd most of us don’t have a place to confide them.  I used to pour over these posts every day in New York. And I connected with each of those women. This is needed Ashley. Let me help.  Let me do this. If you’re ready, let US do this together.

She was right.
And because she had reminded me of what it felt like to be heard and loved unconditionally by a friend who knew my entire truth, I was also reminded of how much we ALL need that support and compassion, of how much we all need this sisterhood.
It was time.

So we went to work. We laughed, we cried and we poured our hearts into starting the foundation for a community that YOU will build. Sisterhood of Secrets is your forum, your refuge, your place to connect.

I am so excited to announce that because vulnerability breeds courage,
Sisterhood of Secrets is back–and it’s not going anywhere.

xoxo, Ashley